Condolences Messages Can Be More Important Than You Know

When you hear about a friend who is having a very difficult time due to loss, tragedy or other issue the natural reaction is to think that you feel sorry for that person and you hope they make it through their problems. You don't always tell the person how you are feeling. There are a lot of reasons behind this.

One reason that you don't always send a condolences message is that you think that there are plenty of people who are there supporting them and they don't need to have another message. Surely someone has already told your friend that they are sorry that they are going through their problem.

Another reason that you might not send a condolences message to your friend is that you don't know what to say. It is very easy to not know what to say in a tragedy. You feel upset and you want your friend to know how you feel, but you don't know how or what to say. You don't want to say anything that could upset your friend or family member, so you end up just saying nothing because it is easier.

Some people choose not to send a condolences message because they think that if they send a message it will actually hurt their friend more. They think that if they don't send a message that their friend will be able to get over whatever happened faster because they won't constantly be reminded of it.

The fact is that a person in a very difficult situation needs as much support as possible. They can never have too many friends telling them that they are being thought of. Put yourself in their place. How would you feel? You would want to have as many of your friends as possible sending you condolences.

If you don't know what to say there are ways to get around that. You can buy cards with a condolences message inside already, or you can go online and find ideas as to what to say. Even if you only say that you are thinking of them that is good. The important thing isn't necessarily what you say; it's that you are saying something.

For some people the grief and feelings that get brought up by their tragedy go on for months. You sending them a condolences message isn't going to bring up more pain for them. In fact they might welcome a message sometime after the loss or situation. That way they know that someone is still thinking of them. Too many times a person gets a lot of cards and messages early on, but feels forgotten as the situation goes on. Getting message then can be very important.

Condolences messages are more important than you might think. If you hear about a friend who is a bad situation you should say something to them. You might not know how much they need to hear from you or that you are thinking of them.