Condolences Messages Can Be Cards or Letters

When you have a friend who is going through a very tough time you want them to know that you are thinking about them and you care about how they are feeling. The problem is that you don't always know what to say.

Knowing what to say can be very confusing because you want your loved one know that you are thinking about them and want to support them through this tough time, but you don't want to put your foot in your mouth while you are doing it. You might not even know how to say what you want to say. That's where condolences cards come in.

There are cards for many situations, so you can look them and find one that fits the situation and what you want to say. They are generally safe to send, because the sentiments have been well thought out. Some of the messages in the cards are very simple. They may say something like "I'm thinking of you in this difficult time." Others have poems or verses from the Bible. If you don't know what to say or how to say it then buying a card with a pre-written sentiment is a good idea.

If you want to send a condolences message that is more personal than you might want to get a blank card or write a letter that expresses your feelings. There are some benefits to this. The biggest one is that your friend knows exactly how you are feeling. They know that you spent some time thinking about what to say and that what you saying is what is in your heart.

Writing a person condolences message can be good, but the problem with it is that you run the risk of saying something that can be taken the wrong way. When you write your own message you really want to keep your audience in mind, and put some careful thought into what you say. You don't want to say something that you think is helpful and supportive that hurts the person instead. A common example of this is when people tell a woman who has had a miscarriage that she can have other children, or tell parents that have lost a child that God must have wanted that child. The person saying those things is trying to express their condolences, and they mean well, they just aren't judging their audience well.

Another place where people who are writing their own condolences messages need to be careful is when it comes to religious messages. Not everyone will respond to a religious message positively. This is true both for people who are religious and for people who aren't religious. If you are unsure of how a person might feel about a religious message the best thing to say is something like "I will keep you in my prayers."

Sending a condolences message is always a good thing. It lets your friend or loved one know that you are thinking of them. You can either send a card that has something already written in it or you can write your own message. If you aren't sure what to write going with a card is a good thing. The important thing is that you send the message.